Dating several people at

14-Dec-2019 21:03

After a fabulous date when he feels really close to you and has forgotten about the other women, he may want to sleep with you.

But, next time, if he oddly avoids sex, he might have just seen one of the other women the night before and feel confused. Men specifically hold back personal info from women they don’t want to lead on, since they know we’ll take that type of sharing as a sign they want to get serious with us.

It's the best way to make the worst decision of your life, and your brain is wired to do it. And it's directly associated with almost every form of clinical addiction in humans.

Have you ever been on a date and found that you can remember every tiny detail (like how he held your hand, or what he said) but still not be able to recall what you had for dinner yesterday? Studies have shown your dopamine levels skyrocket when you first fall for someone, even after just one date.

Your chances of meeting "the one" increase with every new guy you meet and date. Because you've balanced your neurotransmitters by multi-dating, you're now getting clearer, more rational observations of individual traits you like and dislike in men.

When you get out there and multi-date, you make life happen at a faster rate. You might think you want X trait, but have you experienced it?

This is a real problem — not to mention, a significant time waster. It sends the pleasure receptors in your brain into a very happy overdrive.

Most men take time — weeks or months — to decide they want to be exclusive with you.

This dating pattern makes sense, as it gives him time to get to know you.

We're literally wired, via several neurotransmitters, to focus and obsess on new love – even if it isn't good for us.

Dating multiple people flattens out these neurotransmitter peaks and troughs over multiple men.

This is a real problem — not to mention, a significant time waster. It sends the pleasure receptors in your brain into a very happy overdrive.

Most men take time — weeks or months — to decide they want to be exclusive with you.

This dating pattern makes sense, as it gives him time to get to know you.

We're literally wired, via several neurotransmitters, to focus and obsess on new love – even if it isn't good for us.

Dating multiple people flattens out these neurotransmitter peaks and troughs over multiple men.

One of the most controversial ideas I teach in dating is to go on multiple dates, with multiple guys, before you become exclusive with anyone.